Gays too unfaithful to get married - Family First senator tells senate

Bob Day of the Family First Party

More love from the christians......

In the senate this week they had some sort of politically inspired debate about marriage equality; another one that inevitably went absolutely nowhere. Honestly why do they fuckin bother with this whole charade? Debating what nearly all western countries have already decided? What is the fuckin point of that? Is the sky blue? But I digress.....

Anyway, Bob Day from the Family First party (by my understanding some tin pot christian party that started ages ago to change the world to their image but never went beyond tin pot party) in said senate debate of marriage equality, claimed that gays are sooooo not into monogamy and therefore shouldn't be allowed to be married. Not that he was making a generalised sweeping statement or anything.

The chairman of the Family First Party further quoted gay sex columnist Dan Savage and gay Australian academic and activist Dennis Altman as saying that gay men are typically ‘unfaithful’ and that having one partner to be ‘unrealistic and unnatural’.

‘In places where gay people, typically men, have been able to form recognized unions, they do not necessarily equate their commitment to monogamy,’ Day said as recorded on the Hansard.

‘The term “monogamish”—monogamy as a kind of “monogamish”—has now been coined, a sort of “open marriage”—a tautology if ever I heard one in this brave new world—as they feel a restriction to one partner is unrealistic and unnatural,’ Day quoted Dan Savage who is said to have coined the term to mean allowing occasional infidelities in one’s otherwise committed relationship.

He further quoted Altman as saying while on a panel of gay authors at the 2012 Sydney Writers’ Festival, ‘Now I am going to speak as a gay man: one of the things about gay male culture is that it is not a monogamous culture. All the evidence we have suggests that monogamy is a myth. There are many longstanding gay relationships. There are virtually no longstanding monogamous gay relationships.’ GayStarNews

To that I would say simply that that is their personal opinion/experience of the gay world, but it's not a study in itself. A real life scientific and all type study of gay relationships? This is not it.

Gay relationships are far more complex according to a very recent scientific and all type real study done in Australia, and to just make a broad all encompassing statement that gays aren't monogamous is just plain wrong. The study reported at Same Same produced this graphic:

Whether the men were monogamous or not did not appear to be determined by how long they had been together. Also, those who considered themselves to be in a relationship tended to have been together longer, with nearly a quarter of men in relationships having been together more than ten years. 

But regardless of relationship type, most of the men surveyed thought that relationships between men can last and that monogamous relationships can work. Same Same

I wonder if there's been such a study done on straight relationships eh? How monogamous are straight married people? Not that straight people have open marriages or anything......  Yet those straight people want to dictate to us the terms of our relationships? Fuck off!


Personally David and I are monogamous. We simply love each other too much not to be. We must be part of the 19% who fuck their boyfriend only,  although we call each other our partner not boyfriend. 

So why can't we get married then?